Why do you keep sabotaging?

Ugh, I get it. Every time you take two steps towards your goal, you end up taking one step back. As soon as you seem to make progress, you snap back to your old normal.

And you don’t know why?

Let’s take the first step towards understanding and overcoming these self-sabotaging behaviors by getting to their root. You have the power to identify the main saboteur that keeps holding you back, and when you know what to look for, you can start to make real change.

1) How do you feel when asked to take on additional tasks at work, even if you're already busy?

I immediately say yes, even if it means working late.

I feel stressed and overwhelmed, thinking I must do it perfectly or not at all.

I doubt my ability to complete the tasks well.

I hesitate because I worry I won't meet the high standards expected.

2) When faced with a new challenge, what is your initial reaction?

I worry about disappointing others if I fail.

I see it as either a complete success or an absolute failure.

I question if I am capable of succeeding.

I set extremely high expectations for myself.

3) How do you handle feedback from others?

I take it very personally and worry about their opinion of me.

I view it as a total criticism or praise, nothing in between.

I feel disheartened and think I am not good enough.

I become anxious about needing to improve and be flawless.

4) What is your approach to making decisions?

I often ask others for their opinions and go along with their suggestions.

I see only two options and struggle to find a middle ground.

I second-guess myself and worry about making the wrong choice.

I spend a lot of time trying to make the perfect decision.

5) How do you react to mistakes or failures?

I feel like I've let others down and seek their reassurance.

I think of it as a total failure, with no positive aspects.

I feel like it confirms my lack of ability.

I obsess over what went wrong and how I could have done it perfectly.

6) In social situations, what describes your typical behavior?

I go out of my way to make others happy, even at my own expense.

I see interactions as either going great or terribly, with no middle ground.

I feel nervous and unsure if others will like me.

I worry about saying or doing something wrong.

7) How do you handle unexpected changes in plans?

I try to accommodate everyone else's needs and preferences.

I see the change as either completely positive or negative.

I feel anxious and doubt my ability to adapt.

I worry that the change will lead to failure because it's not what I prepared for.

8) What is your approach to setting goals?

I focus on what others expect from me and set goals to please them.

I set extreme goals and feel like anything less is a failure.

I set modest goals because I doubt my ability to achieve big ones.

I set very high, often unattainable goals to ensure perfection.

9) How do you feel about your accomplishments?

I downplay them and give credit to others.

I see them as either complete successes or complete failures.

I feel like they are not significant or good enough.

I am rarely satisfied, always seeing room for improvement.

10) How do you respond to compliments?

I deflect them and feel uncomfortable.

I either fully accept them or fully reject them, with no in-between.

I doubt their sincerity and feel undeserving.

I feel pressure to live up to the high standards they imply.

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